Yichus wrote:There wasn't, if I recall correctly, ANY criticism whatsoever of her actions, at least not from members of this board. Is that not indicative of a double standard? Are we not less likely to criticize friends publicly, even when criticism is warranted? Does the fact that she was "honest and forthright" about the experience absolve her from criticism?
As I mentioned, had the incident involved a solo hiker who was not a friend to many on this board, that person would have been severely criticized for not having carried proper winter gear or a cell phone (the latter an unreliable means of communication in the mountains). Again, I do understand the reasons for being reticent to offer criticism in this case.
Nevertheless, I do respect your opinion, Alan, but let's not dismiss the fact that, as flawed human beings, we tend to avoid publicly criticizing those with whom we share a friendship.
I agree that there was little enough criticism of Ellen on this Board that one could miss it entirely. She has established herself as a friend of many here. I agree with your last statement that we humans tend to be less publicly critical of our friends than of strangers. To me, that is an inconsistency but it does not indicate a double standard on the Board. We are all free to choose when and how we comment.
An example of what (to me) would represent a double standard: Someone posts a reasoned criticism of Ellen and gets hammered while the people doing the hammering freely criticize others. Actually, to have a double standard, that kind of thing would have to happen regularly. But I think we're just using the term "double standard" differently. Humans do that kind of thing too!
I will say that I don't feel personally critical of what Ellen did. She went out alone, was reasonably well-prepared, had an unfortunate accident, went through an ordeal with the aid of courage and luck (having the Hut), and was rescued by SAR people doing what SAR people do. (And hats off to them for it!!!) One assumes a risk in going out alone in the winter, which she recognized in her comments afterwards. She also recognized that there were things she could have included in her pack that would have been very helpful, making some potential criticism unnecessary. That is what I was referring to in calling her report honest.
I do not want to defend all of the criticism that has been made here, including some comments of ODC leaders. I have a generally quite positive impression of the ODC and some of the leaders who have received comments here. I am not inclined ot be too critical of anyone based on limited information. On the other hand, I don't find most of the criticism posted here to be mean-spirited (which people other than you have claimed).
Neither you nor anyone else is required to agree with me about Ellen's accident or the ODC or anything else!
By the way, if you have constructive criticism to offer regarding Ellen's accident, I'll bet she would take it well. Personally, I don't feel that I have much to offer in that vein that she hadn't thought of herself long ago. One thing I like about her report and the associated discussion is that one can learn a lot from it. I'm also glad that this Board actually contributed to saving her life!
