by cynthia23 » Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:37 am
I definitely don't think Dean was a bad person, and I sincerely apologize if I've given that impression. When I speak of people jumping off cliffs to get media attention, I'm only speaking generally about the stunt guys--I have no idea what drove Potter, but I"m guessing it was something deeper than just a hunger for fame. But I do think the commercial forces--i.e. the various companies--who exploit these extreme sports stunts--ARE truly bad. To my mind, Dean was being exploited by them.
Dean's 'flaw,' from my perspective, is that he doesn't seem to have thought about using his courage in an important-enough way. If a person is physically courageous and wants an extreme adventure that risks death, I think there are so many more meaningful ways to do that, ways which help others. Look at the people who volunteered to go to Liberia and help those with Ebola, and those who go to Syria to help refugees, or here at home, the firefighters, the SAR folks, our cops and military. Personally I would never have the courage to do any of that, and I deeply admire those who do. The idea that refugee workers are adrenaline junkies may seem fanciful but there is actually evidence that many of them are (a lot of them speak of being bored and disconnected when they're back at home.) But they're using their 'need for speed' in a way that matters. IMHO, if you're going to deliberately court death, it should be for some truly important reason. I"m sorry for Potter (and his family), but I can't admire him. To me, it all just feels like a sad waste. Still, I get that others may feel very differently, and I respect their right to their own equally strong feelings. This is a deeply personal matter, after all--literally a question of "What is life for?". But I"m sure we all join in feeling sadness for his family and survivors.
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